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Real Love, Sex and Marriage the way it was meant to be.

I want to share a few articles from my devotional on Love, Sex and Marriage the way it was meant to be from the begging of time. The reading’s really touched my heart, encouraged and reminded me of something too. Hope it does for you too.

This is not a “Politically Correct” post though it would have been in years past. Think about how this goes against the norm now. Look at what the godless progressive liberal agenda is pushing in our time. Look at what is on the TV now day’s from Hollywood,”Mistresses” Modern Family” and all the rest. How women are portrayed and are supposed to act what’s portrayed as a superposed man,( a  abusive woman degrading thug) and the women go for it thinking they are not worthy of respect and having no shame, showing everything to everyone is right now. Anyways had to pontificate a little.

First up. The scriptures that go with all of these reading with a few exceptions can be found in Song OF Songs 

The Vocabulary of Love Passage for the day Song of Songs 1:1-4

“Frankly, sex in marriage should be a voluptuous experience. It is a gift to celebrate, excellent in every way… 

 Sexual intercourse is not a given, something that somehow miraculously takes car of it’s self once we enter marriage. It needs nurture, tenderness , training, education and much more. When two persons enter sexual intimacy, there must be a lot of emotional, spiritual and physical give and take.

  Men and women respond differently in the sexual experience, and we had better learn the differences. You can find them cataloged in ant number of books. But what you cannot find is the unique differences that exist between you and your spouse. the books can only provide hints point you in the right general direction. It is up to you to explore the unique and mysterious ways of your partner.

  Women, the experts tell us, respond to sex more in terms of relationship, of caring, sharing, than do men. But it is my God given responsibility to learn the specific rhythms of my wife. How often, how intense, how slow, how fast what gives pleasure, what offends-these and a thousand other things from the vocabulary of love. I must learn to read the language of her heart and soul, and she must learn to read mine.

  This is the agony and the ecstasy of sexual intimacy. But we cannot avoid it even if we want to. Besides, it is the very thing that provides such infinite variety and lifelong pleasure in our sexual experience. No wonder the Creator made marriage permanent-after a lifetime we have only just begun to understand the marvelous inner clockwork of each other.” Author: Richard Foster.

Wow! What woman wouldn’t want to be loved like this? Guy’s, how much better would life be if we learned and practiced this?

The Springtime of Fidelity Passage for the day Song of Songs 2:3-13 

“FIDELITY means a stubborn dedication to growth in personal relationship. A marriage partnership must have room for individual growth; but at the beating heart of any marriage is the delicate, fragile-often painful-but potentiality joyful relationship of two persons face to face in personal encounter. the vital core of marriage is the special kind of sex communion that vibrates on every level-physical, emotional, intellectual and spiritual. All the institutional dimensions are only the framework for the dynamic center. And if partners are faithful in the complex ways mentioned above, their fidelity will mean a steady dedication to the growth of an honest and open relationship in every dimension.

  Fidelity is best practiced with an implicit understanding that the relationship happens within a permanent , lifelong structure. But within the structure of permanence, relationships are constantly shifting: they are never stagnant, but grow deeper or become shallow. To be faithful means that we can never lazily accept the present as our fated destiny. For relationships never have to be what they are; they can change. The future has possibilities wherever two human beings affirm it possibilities for them. No one can make a claim to faithfulness in marriage if he does not keep the door open to the possibilities that his relationship can be better tomorrow than it is today.

  Personal relationships are nourished only through communication, and communication between two people enmeshed in daily preoccupations with jobs, budgets, diapers and new math can be very difficult to maintain. For one thing, it takes time…And, above all, it takes desire. Personal communication is difficult because it is painful for us to talk about what we are feeling; it is much easier to discuss the unbalanced checking account than to discuss how we feel toward each other. But more, it is difficult because when we talk we are not sure what becomes of our message after it is filtered through the receptive apparatus of the person who receives it… Fidelity will give us the job of finding out what the other person is actually hearing from us and of patiently probing what the other person is actually trying to say.” Author: Lewis Smedes

Before we do anything else in the morning, my wife and I kiss, hug, say good morning to each other and sit out side on the porch and talk over coffee. Myself, I look forward to it every day. I’v watched how both of us has changed, grown and how our marriage has gotten better. Thank you very much Lord for this blessing!!

This next one is from a weekend reading entitled RETHINK and the scriptures that go with it are, Genesis 1:26-28 and 1 Corinthians 13

“Our human sexuality, our maleness and femaleness, is not just an accidental arrangement of the human species, not just a convenient way to keep the human race going. No, it is at the center of our true humanity. We exist as male and female in relationship. Our sexualness, our capacity to love and be loved is intimately related to our creation in the image of God. What a high view of human sexuality!

  Notice too that the Biblical stress upon relationship helps to enlarge our understanding of human sexuality. The problem with topless bars and the pornographic literature of our day is not that they emphasize sexuality too much but that they do not emphasize it enough. They totally eliminate relationship and restrain sexuality to the narrow confines of the genitals. They have made sex trivial.

  How much richer and fuller is the Biblical perceptive! To chat over coffee, to discuss a great book, to view a sunset together-this is sexuality at its best, for male and female are in intimate relationship.” Author: Richard Foster

Male and Female He created them in His own image.  Genesis 1:26-28 New International Version (NIV)

26 Then God said, “Let us make mankind in our image, in our likeness, so that they may rule over the fish in the sea and the birds in the sky, over the livestock and all the wild animals,[a] and over all the creatures that move along the ground.”

27 So God created mankind in his own image,
    in the image of God he created them;
    male and female he created them.

28 God blessed them and said to them, “Be fruitful and increase in number;fill the earth and subdue it. Rule over the fish in the sea and the birds in the sky and over every living creature that moves on the ground.”

Next up Sweet Surprise I really like this one, the scripture that goes with this one is Song of Songs 4:8-15

“IT’S ODD, when you think about it, that after living together for eleven years, your wife remains alien enough to surprise you. You figure you’ve seen all her tricks and quirks. You know at which foods she will stick out her tongue. You know by her walk, when you pick her up after work and watch her approach the car , if it’s been a good or bad day. You know before she’s read the funny pages, which cartoons she will put on the refrigerator.

  But then one day she surprises you. And you notice anew the exact spot where the hairline begins on her forehead and the unique character of her hands. You realize what you had forgotten for a while-that she’s not an extension of yourself,not a supporting actress in a private drama you are writing and directing…

  Sometimes I look at Sandy sleeping, unaware of me, vulnerable as a child, and remember that she lived a good part of her life before I even entered it. The face of a sleeping woman, is profound. With it’s soft lines, with it’s hidden eyes, with it’s closed lips, it says: “Eleven years are barley enough to get beneath the skin-let alone to the heart-of the mystery that is woman.”

  This woman is my wife. But she is also a sweet stranger, beyond the knowing of a lifetime. She surprises me, and I am glad for that because it renews our marriage.” Author Rodney Clapp 

I can totally relate to that. I sometimes watch my wife sleep too. It brings me great joy, peace and thankfulness.

Last one, thanks for staying with me, hope it’s worth it for you.

Peaceful Togetherness

“The different way in which a man and a woman experience life colors their entire marriage. for the man, sexual union is an event with a significance of it’s own, having it’s own independent experiential value. Through sexual intercourse, he is able to recover community after having spent some time in a certain emotional isolation, a certain erotic neutrality, for example, after a days work. This feeling of belonging, restored by the sexual event, he now takes with him joyfully and proceeds to discharge in his work the energy he has accumulated from being with his wife. He is now able to perform heightened creativity and new zest because his work now seems ever so much more meaningful to him. it is for this reason that the man is able to attribute a spiritual meaning to sexual union, indeed a metaphysical significance.

  The woman’s story is entirely different. For the feminine soul, sexual union is both less and more. It is sometimes very close and palpable. Her spiritual surrender is directed far more precisely at the person of her husband, perhaps at the hoped for child. A woman expects every sexual union to bring her closer to her husband and to remain closer to him ever after.

  An hour of peaceful togetherness in which the woman knows that her husband is really beside her, an hour during which he really participates in everything she tells him and he tells her, is likely to mean a great deal more to most women then any stormy sexual encounter during which she loves her husband, to be sure, but in which her husband actually gives himself to the experience rather than to his wife.” Author: Paul Plattner

Now a few observations from JoeDanMedia proud owner and operator of Intellectual Froglegs website  Judicial kings and Christian peasants – Intellectual Froglegs 09.07.15 

Well that’s it, hope you enjoyed it and someone got blessed by. God bless America and you.

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It’s not just the sin and perversion of homosexuality. Redefining Marriage.

There can be no doubt that homosexuality is a sin and a perversion of the original design, especially when it comes to redefining marriage. Matthew 19:4-5 King James Version (KJV) 4 “And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female,And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh?” But that’s what satin does, he perverse s and call’s into question anything God does or say’s. “‘Did God really say that you must not eat from any tree in the garden?” ( Bible verses about Marriage ) Progressivism is a cult and of the devil. It all has to do with the original sin of pride and wanting to be god’s. The very reason satin was thrown out of heaven and to the earth, pride, he wanted to be God. ( Why did God allow Satan and the demons to sin? ) From their founding fathers who also believe in “Population Control” BTW and channeling spirits for guidance. Progressives, truly do believe that through science they can become god’s, through government and legislation they know best and all anyone else has to do is conform. I’ve done the research and posted about it, if you would only take the time to research it for yourself you’d see the difference between their cult and God is that God allows choices/freewill, where progressives do not and attack relentlessly those that oppose their beliefs or opinions. They’v been at “The fundamental change of America” for some time, some say 100 years at least but in 1962 when they got prayer banned in the public schools they went main stream and they’v been at the business of removing God from society ever since. Their agenda should have been realized. Sad for us it wasn’t or no one thought how devastating that small step would be. I’m sure that there had to be people sounding the alarm bells but like now and since 2008 no one payed attention. They where and are to caught up in the sin of pride, me, me, me and only me matters and what can you do for me. Who has time for God when it’s all about me. Let me be clear here. Though the “Cult” and perversion is of the devil most of the people behind it are lost, though some know exactly what the are doing. But there is hope for the lost.

John 3:16-21Modern English Version (MEV) 16 “For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish, but have eternal life. 17 For God did not send His Son into the world to condemn the world, but that the world through Him might be saved. 18 He who believes in Him is not condemned. But he who does not believe is condemned already, because he has not believed in the name of the only begotten Son of God. 19 This is the verdict, that light has come into the world, and men loved darkness rather than light, because their deeds were evil. 20 For everyone who does evil hates the light and does not come to the light, lest his deeds should be exposed. 21 But he who does the truth comes to the light, that it may be revealed that his deeds have been done in God.”  

And as far as Christians are concerned it’s NOT the people behind all this, Ephesians 6:12-18Easy-to-Read Version (ERV) 12 “Our fight is not against people on earth. We are fighting against the rulers and authorities and the powers of this world’s darkness. We are fighting against the spiritual powers of evil in the heavenly places. 13 That is why you need to get God’s full armor. Then on the day of evil, you will be able to stand strong. And when you have finished the whole fight, you will still be standing.”

14 “So stand strong with the belt of truth tied around your waist, and on your chest wear the protection of right living. 15 On your feet wear the Good News of peace to help you stand strong. 16 And also use the shield of faith with which you can stop all the burning arrows that come from the Evil One. 17 Accept God’s salvation as your helmet. And take the sword of the Spirit—that sword is the teaching of God. 18 Pray in the Spirit at all times. Pray with all kinds of prayers, and ask for everything you need. To do this you must always be ready. Never give up. Always pray for all of God’s people.”  So our fight is in the heavenly s in prayer, “against the rulers and authorities and the powers of this world’s darkness. We are fighting against the spiritual powers of evil in the heavenly places.”  

Also walk with integrity in our own homes, walk the walk. Choose leaders that do the same and understand the the principals of the founding fathers of this once great nation, Judaeo Christian principals and values. As I’ve said in other post’s I’ve started reading the bible over again and am in the Old Testament. You want to know what causes a nation or people to fall? NOT following God’s directions  rejecting His guidance and warnings. The bible say’s, Romans 15:4  “For everything that was written in the past was written to teach us, so that through the endurance taught in the Scriptures and the encouragement they provide we might have hope”. 1 Corinthians 10:11 “These things happened to them as examples and were written down as warnings for us, on whom the culmination of the ages has come”.

“For whatsoever things were written aforetime were written for our learning, that we through patience and comfort of the scriptures might have hope.” (Romans 15:4)

“Let no modern Christian ever think that he can ignore the Old Testament and base all his faith and practice on just the twenty-seven books of the New Testament, as vital as they are. Even the apostle Paul, who wrote more of the New Testament than anyone else, depended heavily on the Old Testament Scriptures for his exposition of the New Testament doctrines he had received “by the revelation of Jesus Christ” (Galatians 1:12). Read more,  Written for Our Learning

From Apologetics Press , What Use is the Old Testament? and, Only the Creator has the Right to Define Marriage 

Well, that’s my two cent’s for now. Check out these headlines and then what the bible has to say about all this. CONTENT WARNING: IMAGES FROM THIS WEEKEND’S GAY PRIDE PARADES

TAKE DOWN THE FASCIST, ANTI-CHRISTIAN GAY-PRIDE FLAG

RAINBOW OF HATE: CATHOLIC PRIEST REPORTS BEING SPIT ON AT GAY MARRIAGE PARADE

The Unlikely Turning Point in the Same Sex Marriage Battle

What Life Is Like When Children of Gay Couples Don’t Matter

“A family who own a farm in upstate New York that hosts weddings on occassion was successfully sued by a lesbian couple when the owners said that their Christian beliefs would be violated if they hosted a ceremony for that particular couple.” Read more here. Farm couple sued for discrimination say they were ‘set up’

People are saying “What’s next”? Can you believe this? Child Trauma Expert: Pro-Pedophilia Groups Are ‘Grooming’ Public to Accept Adult-Child Sex

From the progressive left in California. home11-660x320

“First we accept homosexuality, some social conservatives said, and next we’ll accept pedophilia.  If we legalize gay marriage, they said, next we’ll have legalize polygamy.  “Nonsense!” came the reply.  “You’re committing the slippery slope fallacy.”  Well, we are slipping and sliding on that same slippery slope.  That’s the point made by  Joe Carter, who analyzes the latest effort to de-stigmatize pedophilia; that is, to use a more politically-correct term “minor-attracted persons.” Read more here.  Normalizing “minor-attracted persons”

“People can classify themselves as heterosexual, homosexual, asexual, metrosexual. There are endless sexual orientations under the sun, and now, pedophilia can be added to the list” Read more here. Pedophilia Now Classified As A Sexual Orientation

PEDOPHILIA THE NEXT ‘SEXUAL-RIGHTS’ REVOLUTION?

LEGALIZING SEXUAL CHILD ABUSE: PEDOPHILIA NOW CLASSIFIED AS A SEXUAL ORIENTATION

List of pedophile and pederast advocacy organizations

Love him hate him, Bill O’Reilly had some things to say about the The Supreme Court rules and the Rainbow White House Display. 

The Supreme Court rules O’Reilly Lashes Out At Obama For Rainbow White House Display After Marriage Equality Ruling 

So, what does the bible have to say? Be glad and thankful for the New Testament and Jesus Christ. If Christ hadn’t come to save us and we where still in the Old Testament times. Leviticus 20:13  “If a man has sexual relations with a man as one does with a woman, both of them have done what is detestable. They are to be put to death; their blood will be on their own heads.”  Deuteronomy 22:5  “A woman must not wear men’s clothing, nor a man wear women’s clothing, for the LORD your God detests anyone who does this.” 

The destruction of Sodom Genesis 19 

“Therefore God gave them over in the sinful desires of their hearts to sexual impurity for the degrading of their bodies with one another.” Romans 1:24  “He said to them, “You are the ones who justify yourselves in the eyes of others, but God knows your hearts. What people value highly is detestable in God’s sight.” Luke 16:15 

I think I’ll have to make this a two part post. I’ll leave you with some wisdom from Proverbs. “The wicked flee though no one pursues,but the righteous are as bold as a lion. 2When a country is rebellious, it has many rulers,but a ruler with discernment and knowledge maintains order. Read more here. Proverbs 28

See you on part two of the post hopefully, there some good commentary there.

God bless America and you. 11659424_10202840614255387_4584173739424779103_n

Stand for Marriage.

Published on Apr 23, 2015

Beginning April 28, 2015 the United States Supreme Court will consider arguments for and against redefining marriage in America. Though marriage between a man and a woman has existed since the beginning and is the cornerstone of ordered society, the time-honored institution is in serious trouble. Before federal judges began to overturn marriage laws, voters in 30 states had preserved natural marriage in their Constitutions. Now the High Court is poised to decide for us all.

The consequences this decision could have on our religious freedom, the freedom to believe and live according to those beliefs, are staggering. Should the Court redefine marriage, our religious liberty — the foundation for all of our freedoms — is at risk. That’s why Family Research Council has partnered with Echolight Studios to create a short video that explains the importance of this decision, and the impact it will have on everyday Americans who seek to live out their faith. Find out more at http://standformarriage.com andhttp://onegenerationawaymovie.com

Stand for Marriage Family Research Council

“A “March for Marriage” Saturday begins a week of protest and prayer to influence how the Supreme Court will rule on whether states can ban same sex marriage.

Thousands were gathering on the Mall and plan to march to the Supreme Court, which will hear oral arguments on the case Thursday.”  Read more, ‘March for Marriage’ opens week of prayer, protest over gay marriage

God bless America and you.

Marriage, Homosexuality,Abortion,Society.

Just happened to watch “The Hal Lindsey Report” tonight.
What a timely,educational look at our society and the history of other society’s that went the way we are starting to go.

Very informative especially for young people that have not been taught the truth or shown other points of view beside a progressive liberal  point of view.

Take the time.
Hal Lindsey Report: 4/12/2013

“When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said" …

A friend of mine posted this on FB.
I believe it’s a MUST read, check your priorities.
I kept welling up the more I read.
Hope you take the time.



MARRIED OR NOT, YOU SHOULD READ THIS …

“When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I’ve got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.

Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly. She didn’t seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?

I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn’t talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Jane. I didn’t love her anymore. I just pitied her!

With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Jane so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.

The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn’t have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Jane. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.

In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn’t want anything from me, but needed a month’s notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month’s time and she didn’t want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.

This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day. She requested that every day for the month’s duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.

I told Jane about my wife’s divorce conditions. . She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.

My wife and I hadn’t had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mommy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don’t tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.

On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn’t looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.

On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn’t tell Jane about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.

She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.

Suddenly it hit me… she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.

Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it’s time to carry mom out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.

But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn’t noticed that our life lacked intimacy. I drove to office…. jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind…I walked upstairs. Jane opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Jane, I do not want the divorce anymore.

She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Jane, I said, I won’t divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn’t value the details of our lives, not because we didn’t love each other anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart. Jane seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away. At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I’ll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.

That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed -dead. My wife had been fighting CANCER for months and I was so busy with Jane to even notice. She knew that she would die soon and she wanted to save me from the whatever negative reaction from our son, in case we push through with the divorce.— At least, in the eyes of our son—- I’m a loving husband….

The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves.

So find time to be your spouse’s friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!

If you don’t share this, nothing will happen to you.

If you do, you just might save a marriage. Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up. ♥

Remember love is the richest of all treasures. Without it there is nothing; and with it there is everything. Love never perishes , even if the bones of a lover are ground fine like powder. Just as the perfume of sandalwood does not leave it, even if it is completely ground up, similarly the basis of love is the soul, and it is indestructible and therefore eternal. Beauty can be destroyed , but not love. ♥

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Lets get back to basics America.
GOD bless America and you.